Have you ever dated a successful man and people started to throw sugar daddy or gold-digger allegations at you? Well, I am here to tell you that you are on the right path to success. As women, the world will tell us how to live, what to wear, who to love and what to eat. Enough is enough, take life by the balls and create the fantasy you want to live. Men create their fantasies all the time, why can’t we? This is not battle of the genders, no ma’am, as I always say this is about logic. Womanhood is infused with how much skin a woman is willing to rip off her back in the name of “love” and “motherhood” but what about what she wants? Doesn’t that matter? Women forget to ask themselves “What do I want?” “What’s in it for me?” “How will I benefit from this?” “What’s the tradeoff?”
Men have many advantages and that’s okay, but I want women to embrace advantages they were born with. I dislike seeing women sell themselves short, we are all selling ourselves in different ways so we might as well continue to add tax to it. As a woman, you must have confidence when dating a successful man. It doesn’t matter if you are young or old the general population will assume you are only with him for money, if you guys are in different tax brackets. Never submit yourself to a convincing tour, nobody cares and as I mention before the general population will believe whatever they want. Stay mute and cute!
The world is a masochist, they never want to see women happy and thriving. People get off on seeing mothers lose themselves in motherhood and love, seems like the only people allowed to be happy are men. I believe in fighting back but in a different way, through a man’s pockets and resources is how you tell the world to f*ck off! Please understand nothing in life is given unless you are a nepo baby, the rest of us must create our world and take opportunities that align with our future.
A little back story…
Once I graduated high school, I told myself I was eager to learn and have a mentor which also translates into dating wealthy older men. The men in my age bracket weren’t cutting it, if a man can’t teach me something I get bored and wonder elsewhere. I grew tired of the Netflix and chill, bars, clubs, etc… I knew I was ready for an engulfing experience. I never prayed for a man, and I never will but God heard me pray for abundance, healthy challenges, people, places and things that will support my divine path. I got in the habit of saying divine in my prayers because anything that is divine belongs to your true journey that God created for you. It’s also another way for me to tell God to stop sending me immature men and situationships, for those who don’t know what that word means… it means two people that aren’t officially together but do everything that real couples do.
My female friends were grossed out that I wanted to change and challenge myself to date older men. “Ew, you’re f*cking someone’s dad?” one of my ex-friends said. Emphasis on ex-friend, someone has one time to make an inappropriate comment about my lifestyle and I terminate the friendship. I respect how everyone wants to live so why can’t people do the same for me? Love and respect are hardly ever reciprocated with those who are close to you. I always lived in the future since I was a child, trusted my vision, wants and desires. Outside of wanting vacations and shopping sprees, I desperately yearned for information. I wanted a seat at the table with the big boys and most importantly I wanted to become a member. The most expensive thing in this life is information.
People often get challenges and desperation confused. I’m not going to date an old wealthy man that is sickly and I’m not attracted to, let’s start there. It’s not that deep. However, if I come across an older successful man that’s shows interest I will take the opportunity. Two things about me: I am a daredevil and fearless. The women who laugh at younger women for choosing to date older all have the same jokes, but baby if we are all still in relationships/married at 70 years old, we ALL probably will be still sucking a 70 year old d*ck. I just so happen to be doing while I’m young, nor am I ashamed. Men say I talk about relationships as if there are business contracts, well, yes! Apparently, men don’t understand women but they do understand numbers, with that being said let’s get into it!
No matter how many books you read and lectures you subject yourself to, there’s nothing better than an actual mentor. Someone you can ask stupid questions without the embarrassment; someone that can guide you through mishaps. Over the years, women forgot their power and one of our biggest powers is getting information out of people. The feminist movement made every woman hyper-independent and that’s okay but baby me? While you submit yourself to self-righteous ideals, I will get off the exist and take the shorter way. Life is not about what you know but how bad you want the goal you’re aiming at. This isn’t about sex scandal and blackmail; it’s about work smarter and not harder. Why work hard when you don’t have to? It’s okay for somethings to fall in your lap, every goal that you set for yourself doesn’t need to be accomplished via hard work, blood, sweat and tears.
There’s a certain demographic of women that like to beat on their chest about how strong and independent they are. Okay, now what? What’s next after this is all said and done? Men enjoy women who work and pay bills because it’s important that we ALL know how to take care of ourselves. When it’s time for a man to be masculine and feel that sensual power of clicking “confirm” or handing his credit card over to you, don’t be stupid. Be feminine and accept generosity.
Feminine - Traits traditionally cited as feminine include gracefulness, gentleness, empathy, humility, and sensitivity.
Generous - Generous stresses warmhearted readiness to give more than size or importance of the gift. a generous offer of help.
What’s the point in having forbidden fruit if you don’t add tax to it? Eve bit the apple so we can make our own rules and break them when the shoe doesn’t fit! You don’t have to take my word but trust my vison. I also would like to argue, what the f*ck can I learn from a 27-year-old man? I notice when I dated men my age, it often felt like the blind leading the blind, limited access to certain places, after the relationship reached its plateau I was often left dissatisfied. Sex is great, but knowledge is better. I won’t look this sexy for long and I refuse to be old and broke! I aspire to be that hot milf who got her shit together cozy in a nice home, vacations, spas and retail therapy. I’m interested in learning how to be a homeowner, stocks, investments, maintaining a portfolio, money management, etc all the things that makes living easier and comfortable.
If the trade off is my youth (that I won’t have forever) I might as well give my “best years” to a man who is genuinely trying to teach me how to catch fish! That’s the difference between me and you. The world drills in our head via beauty products and fashion industry how beauty and youth is currency THEN mock women who decides to use it to their advantage. I can’t make this sh*t up, this is why I tell people live life according to their rules because no matter what you do, someone will have something to say.
Celebrity Couples With Big Age Differences
1. George Clooney & Amal Clooney: 17 Years
In 2014, the world was shocked when famed bachelor George Clooney, then 52 years old, announced his engagement to international human rights lawyer, then 35-year-old Amal Alamuddin. The couple officially tied the knot in September of 2014 (just a year after they met) with a beautiful Venetian wedding, and welcomed two children, twins Ella and Alexander, in June of 2017.
Camila Alves & Matthew McConaughey: 13 Years
Matthew McConaughey met model Camila Alves at a Los Angeles nightclub in 2006, when McConaughey was 36 and Alves was 23. While it took some convincing to win her over, the two finally started dating and he proposed on Christmas Day in 2011. The couple then married in June 2012. They share three kids together: sons Levi and Livingston and daughter Vida.
Jason Statham & Rosie-Huntington-Whiteley: 20 Years
Actor Jason Statham, 52, and model-actress Rosie Huntington-Whiteley, 33, started dating in 2010. The couple confirmed their engagement in January 2016, and announced that Huntington-Whiteley was expecting their first child about a year later. The model gave birth to son Jack Oscar Statham on June 24, 2017
Hilarie Burton & Jeffrey Dean Morgan: 16 Years
The One Tree Hill actress and The Walking Dead star began dating in 2009 after being set up by Morgan’s Supernatural co-star, Jensen Ackles. The couple welcomed son Gus in 2010 and daughter, George Virginia in 2018. After 10 years together, the couple held a surprise wedding ceremony in October 2019.
Emma Heming Willis & Bruce Willis: 23 Years
Married once before (to actress Demi Moore), The Sixth Sensestar married his second, Emma Heming Willis, in 2009. The couple now have two daughters together.
Michael Douglas & Catherine Zeta-Jones: 25 Years
Zeta-Jones and Douglas may be 25 years apart, but they happen to share the same birthday: September 25. The pair was introduced at the Deauville Film Festival in 1996. Douglas proposed in 1999, a month after he confirmed rumors that Zeta-Jones was pregnant. The actress gave birth to son Dylan in August of 1999, and the two were married in November 2000. They briefly separated in 2013, but soon rekindled their relationship and are still going strong.
Dennis Quaid & Laura Savoie: 39 Years
After Dennis Quaid parted ways with his model girlfriend, Santa Auzina, who was 32 years his junior, he surprised everyone by popping the question to his new PhD student girlfriend, Laura Savoie in October 2019. TheParent Trap actor, who is 39 years older than his fiancée, told The Guardian that he is unfazed by the age difference. "I didn’t go out looking for an age gap or someone really younger than me. I met her at a business event and then the relationship developed," he said.
Harrison Ford & Calista Flockhart: 22 Years
Harrison Ford and Calista Flockhart first met at the 2002 Golden Globe Awards, when Ford was 60 and Flockhart was 38. They continued to date for another seven-and-a-half years before Ford finally popped the question over Valentine’s Day weekend in 2009. They marriedthat same year in Santa Fe, New Mexico, and have one adopted son together.
If that ex-friend is still single or w/ a broke nigga she mad as hell she didn’t ask you to put her on game lmaooo. Misogyny is the only way your logic can be seen as conniving.
A few things I hate abt the typical discussion on age gaps:
1. the younger woman is always seen as the predator. The older man usually initiates the relationship & holds most of the power in said relationship, there are very few exceptions to this.
2. even if the younger woman IS a gold digger 🙄, she ALWAYS brings sumn to the table! Even if it’s as simple as her social capital